atleast most of the time we don't want to know...
case in point: so called friends emailing a person and telling said person that a former spouse/former lover is having a baby/got someone pregnant...
i doesn't help. and it's not something we'd particularly want to know. thanks for trying to shed a negative light on my happy weekend...whether you knew you were trying to start up a storm on my parade or not.
Wow that's totally inappropriate. I wouldn't want to know either. Those people need to grow up.
ReplyDeleteyea when it became public knowledge that H & D were having a baby (and when they were getting married) i had i don't know how many people calling me up and telling me about the 2 events.
ReplyDeletethe sad thing is ALL OF THOSE PEOPLE knew how much i wanted a child with H and the fact that it would probly devastate me to know that he was having a child with someone else after all the years of infertility crap we went through to have one.
and now Joe is going through the same thing with his "friends" calling him up and informing him that his exwife B is having a baby. She's 6 months along. Good for her...I guess. I'm to the point where as long as it aint Joe's baby (which we ofcourse know it's not he's been exclusivly with me for almost a year) then I don't really care much.
What pisses me off is the fact that I aint pregnant. That I aint having a baby. And it feels like to me that these people (not refering to D or H) are rubbing it in my face for some fucked up reason.
The "what were they thinking?" game is frustrating if you don't grasp that a lot of people just don't think at all - or else they wouldn't do all the dumb crap that they do.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was going through the cancer thing, I was astounded at the people who suddenly had to tell me all the gory details of their relative/neighbor/friend going through a long, grisly, painful cancer death. It was unfathomable.
Hang in there. The ones that mean well, mean well but are clueless. The ones that don't mean well are assholes.
There isn't a lot you can do about either cluelessness or assholiness.
The only real solution is to attain the serenity to rise above it and ignore it (and yes, it is painful when it happens).