so far boring day

havn't done anything really but filing. i had to catchup. not sure how i got so behind but it happened.

hmmm, i can't remember what i was giong to talk about earlier when i logged on this morning before i left for work, so i'll just ramble on.

my review should be comming up in a few weeks for the firm. i still havn't gotten my raise or heard anything from the spa regarding the one i was suppose to get in april.

my band is comming along nicely altho our drummer quit on us. i think my keyboard player(standin bassist) has one in mind. not sure. at the insistence of crystal i talked to Jarhead to see if he'd like to stand in, even just temporarily and he's a nogo on that cuz we practice on sundays and we're a newly formed group. we're suppose to have a new guitar player this sunday. we have another bassist but i dont know if he's just working with us til we're up on our feet better or what. i'm starting to get the songs down that they wanted me to learn. its been a process. Hendrix is not the easiest person to sing and we have a few of his songs we're working on. I think that starting out til we get our own material worked through we'll be a nicely rounded band. one day i hope to sing nothing but originals. i need to start writing again and hopefully we'll get someone in there that can help me put music to the lyrics. on some of them i have a tune in my head but i dont know if its my tune or something i heard in passing sticking in.

AH! TeeJ, my drummer best buddy from Memphis -- his band finally found thier singer. Its been a long hard process for them and I'm so proud!

In honor of my band and TeeJ's band and all the other bands I know! Here is the "Dating a Bandmember" rules thingy again. You can use "boyfriend/girlfriend" interchangeable here, but it mostly says "boyfriend"....

Rules to follow if your significant other (or insignificant) is in a band .....

(by those who know)


-Don't try to be the "manager", do not get involved with band business, that is for the band.

-Don't ask his bandmates for relationship advice.

-Do Not complain when your (insert holiday here) date gets cancelled because a show has been schedualed. Holidays are no longer yours. Even Valentines Day!

***-It's NOT mandatory that you are at every show.***

-Do not get jealous when your boyfriend talks to groupies. They are the ones's buying the CDs and merch, not you, so let them have their time. And remember...you get to go home with him!

-Babies don't make men quit bands....especially if you were a groupie.

-No the band does not want you to go on tour with them. Like your going to sleep in the back of a van and eat ramen for 4 months strait!?

-Don't make the following introduction: Hi! I'm _____. My boyfriend is in ______.

-Don't follow him around at shows like a lost puppy, he is taking care of business, find your own crowd.

-Don't go to band practice. And it's normal to have practice more than once a week.

-Do not assume everyone loves your boyfriend's band.

-Don't make out with other band members girlfriends at the bar. Save that for the after party.

-Don't turn yourself into a walking flyer for your boyfriend's band. The shirt is fine, but must you break out the hat, the hoodie, AND the stickers on your ass?

-Do not stand in front of your boyfriend while he is onstage and stare at him like he is the greatest guitar god in the world.

-No rumpshaka dances during the show, that is unless your man is in 2 Live Crew.

-If he calls while out on the road, don't complain about when he is coming home. You're lucky he is using the quarter to call you, instead of buying gas or food.

-Never say anything negative about your man's band that you cannot say to him. It will only come back to bite you in the ass.

-If your a stripper, keep work on the pole, not at shows. Not everyone wants to know Victoria's Secret.

-Never cause a fight right before your man goes on stage. Relationship problems can be dealt with after the show.

-If they have a show out of town, don't drive just so you and your boy can have "alone time". Because you want to "talk".

-Don't buy your man a new intrument so he and his band mates can match. It's metal core, not fashion core.

-You cannot drink on the band's tab! Buy your own!

-Keep the band seperate from your everyday life. That's your boyfriend's passion, find your own